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Seasons of love … and writing

Birds and flowers of the four seasons
Birds and flowers of the four seasons, part of the paintings on room partitions in the abbot’s quarters (hōjō) of Jukō-in of Daitoku-ji, Kyoto, Japan. Ink on paper. This picture shows four of 16 panels on fusuma (sliding doors) in the in the ritual room. The paintings have been designated as National Treasure of Japan in the category paintings. 16th century. By Kanō Eitoku and his father Kanō Shōei [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons.

Do y’all know the musical Rent? Do yourselves a favor and go listen to “Seasons of Love.” It’s one of my favorite songs. (Dear family and friends: I would like to formally request that this song be played at my funeral. Please, one of you handle that, mmmkay?) (Original Broadway cast recording, please, not the movie soundtrack.)

Sidenote on Rent before we dive in to this post: The stupefyingly talented Idina Menzel — who is the voice of Elsa in Frozen — was one of the original cast members of Rent and helped create the role of Maureen. She’s so badass.

Now let’s begin for real, shall we?

Hi blogmuffins! I know, I know. It’s been … forever. I’ve barely touched the bloggity for months.

I can give you lots of reasons for why I haven’t been blogging, but I think the biggest one is that I just didn’t feel like it. I loooove writing and blogging, but the break gave me a chance to just live for a few months instead of trying to stick words to everything as it was happening … which is what my brain naturally wants to do. It was nice to power down for a bit.

Another really great upside neglecting the bloggity is that I had the opportunity to stare dreamily off into space for so, so many hours and think about … love. Yeah. That. And since I write about my life here, well, I guess I need to let y’all know that there has been a person of the dudely persuasion taking up a lotta my time for the past few months. I won’t go into tons of details about how smart and funny and sexy and adorable he is because then he gets all blushy and embarrassed (and then, yes, the blushiness makes him even more adorabley adorable). But I’ll just say this: I am so farking happy it’s ridiculous.

Ridiculous. In the best way.


Reluctantly sharing my idol

In other news, I saw my favorite writer, Elizabeth Gilbert, speak at the Philadelphia Free Library back in October. I got to ask her a question, which I was super excited and nervous to do … some people lose their shit over rock stars, I apparently lose mine over writers. Anyway, I asked her if she wrote all the time or if she devoted some time purely for research. She told me (and the rest of the people in the audience who insisted on showing up and intruding upon Liz and my special alone time) something veddy interesting. She said that she writes in seasons. She said there are seasons for research and seasons for writing. And when it’s writing season, she keeps “farmer hours.” That is, she goes to bed early so she can get up before the sun rises to start her work.

I like the idea of writing seasons. My writer head seems to need seasons for input and seasons for output. There are seasons to gather, to reflect, to let ideas marinate … and then seasons to arrange my life around my quiet, solitary work. I believe there are also seasons to throw open the windows and the doors and invite people in.


A time to wallow

Seasons of love seem like a pretty good thing, too. When love shows up in its rare and mystifying glory, I think it’s perfectly appropriate to let the laundry pile up, to run out of milk, and to stop doing any activities that aren’t directly related to personal grooming or seeing your new lover. Love doesn’t come along often. Might as well savor it while it’s new and startlingly delicious … life will demand your attention again soon enough.

Happy new year, peeps. Hope to see you around here again soon.


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6 responses to “Seasons of love … and writing”

  1. Tanya Avatar

    I agree, Trish, love is rare, so I’m glad you’re taking this time to enjoy it! The blog is not going anywhere…it will be waiting patiently for whenever your next season of writing begins. I’m so happy for you! Xoxo.

    1. Trish Avatar

      Thank you! I’m happy for me too. 🙂

  2. Maria Avatar

    I always love reading your blogs. This one especially struck a cord for me. Before I thought I was a failure because I took off time from writing because I was drowning in all the activities for my children. I know now its okay to get wrapped up in the kids and find time to write. I feel guilty when my kids bombard me and I tell them I need some mommy quiet time. Basically so I don’t want to ship them off to a gypsy camp cause I am on overload. You are one amazing writer Trish!

    1. Trish Avatar

      Thank you! Writing requires so much emotional juice. I don’t want to use that as an excuse to not write, but man, these last few years have kicked me in the butt a little bit. I think taking time to recharge is OK. People in other professions take sabbaticals, right? Why not writers too?

  3. Melissa Avatar

    I love this post and love that you are in love 🙂

  4. Katiekins Avatar

    I read this quote today and it made me think of this entry.

    “One reason that people have artist’s block is that they do not respect the law of dormancy in nature. Trees don’t produce fruit all year long, constantly. They have a point where they go dormant. And when you are in a dormant period creatively, if you can arrange your life to do the technical tasks that don’t take creativity, you are essentially preparing for the spring when it will all blossom again.”
    — Marshall Vandruff

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